— Carl Gustav Jung
“Ne te quaesiveris extra”…is Latin for, Do not seek for things outside yourself.
It’s a call to look within and to become self-reliant.
In this message, I’ll explain how to do it in ten not so easy steps.
The biggest trend I have seen over the last few decades is the complete abandonment of self-reliance.
If you run the clock back just a generation or two…most people were self-sufficient and did things themselves.
I’m talking about oil changes, taxes, preserving food, cooking, changing a flat tire and even getting off the couch to switch the television channel to name just a few.
Today, we are a nation of people desperate for the government, a piece of technology, or some outside party to fix our problems and make our pain or inconvenience go away.
WAKE UP AND GROW A PAIR
This message is not about changing your oil or learning how to start a fire without match.
It’s about soft efforts, diminishing ambitions…and shrinking balls.
No matter how you look at it…
We’ve become a society of soft, wimpy, fearful, politically correct, entitlement driven, hyper-sensitive, immature and convenience-addicted weenies.
Here’s the thing…
Security, strength, self-confidence and prosperity comes from one place…and it’s the last place most want to look. It comes from within…it comes from your ability to stand on your own two feet, and produce results.
Every time you choose safety, security and dependence on outside parties…you weaken your personal power and make it that much easier for everyone to beat you.
You must be strong enough to stand alone, smart enough to know when you need help, and brave enough to ask for it.
If self-reliance means a strong belief in your own ability to achieve success and happiness, than dependency is an absence of such belief.
Until you learn to take full responsibility for yourself, your results, and your future… you’ll never fully know just how strong and capable you really are.
Self-reliance is a virtue in need of serious cultivation for one primary reason…it’s all about freedom from the control or influence of outside parties.
It’s a simple concept that encourages each one of us to take responsibility for our own needs — physical, emotional, spiritual, social, and economic.
To put it more directly, it’s an understanding that nobody owes you anything and that you have to do your own pushups.
Yet, even though self-reliance is such a critical life skill…
Why on earth is society filled with so many wimpy, excuse making, responsibility dodging, entitlement driven people looking for a handout?
The answer like many others can be found in both government and in the home.
Many programs throughout the world have been set up by well-meaning individuals and institutions to aid those who are in need.
However, many of these programs are designed with the shortsighted objective of “helping people,” as opposed to “helping people help themselves.”
As a result, the beneficiaries of these handouts or helping hands more than often become dependent upon them, and rather than inspiring self-reliance, they often accomplish just the opposite.
By providing people with handouts and free money in the form of universal basic income (UBI)…by removing obstacles from their path…and by eliminating the need for labor and learning from their own mistakes, we are establishing bad precedent.
I’m talking about bad precedent that’s virtually impossible to reverse as once people get a taste of something for nothing, they want, expect and will demand more of it.
Instead of promoting self-reliance…we are guilty of enabling weakness and encouraging people to become reliant upon others.
To bottom line this point…unnecessary dependence upon others is a false sense of security that only serves to make you weak, insecure and highly vulnerable.
It’s the ultimate act of self-betrayal, as your talents never see the light of day.
By shielding yourself from independence, from challenges, failure, unpleasant tasks and adversity…you are in effect, doing more harm than good.
That’s why our efforts must always be directed toward making able-bodied people self-reliant.
TEACH YOUR CHILDREN WELL
“It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.” — Frederick Douglas
Parents have a sacred responsibility to look after the welfare of their children.
As children grow older, they must become more responsible for their own welfare. Parents must teach them the basic principles of work, service, responsibility, goal-setting, money management, and self-reliance.
Because it’s not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings.
The world needs confident and competent men and women…unfortunately, many parents are committing a serious crime by not teaching self-reliance.
By shielding their children from challenges, failure, unpleasant tasks and adversity…too many parents are actually doing more harm than good.
For young people to rely upon others to do what they can, should and must do for themselves is not only unhealthy for their development of skills…it also makes them psychologically weak, confidence deprived, and quite literally puts their very future at risk.
So how do you do it?
How do you become self-reliant, how do you cut the cord of dependency, and take complete control of your life and your destiny?
What I am going to do now is explain how to become self-reliant in ten not so easy steps!
1. You Must Become a Nonconformist
You must learn to think for yourself…you must avoid following popular opinion and resist conforming to the weak and highly vulnerable will of the majority / group pressure.
Trust you own instincts, ideas, principles and common sense.
To be true to yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.
2. You Must Stand for and Defend Principles
It pains me to think how easily people capitulate their dreams to badges, titles, and manipulative institutions.
The truth is…nothing on this earth can bring you freedom but you, and nothing can bring peace but the triumph of principles.
The integrity of your own mind and the principles you believe to be honorable and just are things you must fight for and protect against any opposition.
3. You Must Insist on Being Authentic
There is a time in everyone’s life when they arrive at the conviction that envy is ignorance; that imitation is suicide; that you must take yourself for better or for worse. Insist on being yourself and work to cultivate your gifts.
Authenticity over everything must be the code which you live by.
4. You Must Surrender Unnecessary Dependence
Only the weak, insecure and confidence deprived strive for security and dependency on others.
Therefore, you must identify where you are currently dependent by taking inventory of you life. Look for any unnecessary and unhealthy situations and resolve to move to a state of self-reliance. Do it with immediate effect.
5. You Must Seek Approval Only From Yourself
“Ne te quaesiveris extra”…is Latin for, Do not seek for things outside yourself.
Learning to rely on yourself means that you need to accept and appreciate everything about who you are. You need to look inward for affirmation of your choices and stop relying on others’ opinions about who you are and what you do.
When you have no faith in yourself, it drains you of power and forces you to rely on others for strength and assistance.
But, when you learn to seek approval only from yourself and to build up your own self-esteem, you’ll realize that you don’t need others to accept you.
You approve of you!
6. You Must Confront and Overcome Challenges, Obstacles and Adversity
You must have the understanding that the world is filled with challenge and adversity not to stop you, not to make you give up on your dreams, not to suck your thumb and call for your mother for help…they exist to develop internal strength, to fortify your character, to encourage gritty perseverance and to build self-reliance.
7. You Must Work and Produce Results
Honorable work is the most foundational source of happiness, self-worth and prosperity. Your greatest asset and primary sense of security freedom extends from your ability to produce results and that’s what self-reliance is all about.
You need to be a contributing member of society…you need to pay for your own mortgage, cell phone, gasoline, insurance and student loans…and you need to put food on your own table.
I say this not because I’m a Democrat, Republican, Liberal or Conservative…I say it, because you’re an adult and these are your responsibilities.
8. You Must Become a Student for Life.
Those who have the lowest levels of skill and the weakest capacity for adapting to change will find themselves noncompetitive, unemployed and highly dependent upon others.
Propelled by the competitive imperatives of speed, global responsiveness, disruptive technologies and the need to innovate constantly or perish, learning is the essential hedge against extinction and total dependence upon others.
9. You Must Be Free From Debt
Money is a faithful, loyal servant and we are its master. It allows us to enjoy freedom, expands our options and allows us to make better greater choices.
However when we get into debt the roles change, and we find ourselves in the position of slave and losing our freedom.
The person who owes money is a servant to the person or to the corporation who lends the money. Never are you less free than when you are in debt.
10. You Must Become Your Own Hero
No one in history got wealthy from stimulus checks or welfare.
No one in history got healthy from eating junk food.
No one in history got successful from sitting on their ass binge watching Netflix.
In the end, becoming self-reliant is all about choosing yourself, rescuing yourself and becoming your own hero.
To Be Your Own Hero means being emotionally committed to a cause, problem or project which in turn enables you to go places others are afraid to go, to try things others are afraid to try…and to be the kind of courageous person others are afraid to be.
The world needs people who care about the work they do, the people they serve, the results they produce, and the impact they are making.
The world needs strong, courageous, independent thinking people who want to use their creative ideas and unique talents to make a lasting difference.
The world needs leaders who can lead, leaders who set inspiring examples, leaders who demonstrate trust, and leaders who make things happen.
The world needs people with guts…people with passion and people who are willing to be shunned and rejected in the pursuit of their goals and dreams.
Most importantly…the world needs you…all of you…the brave you, the risk-taking you, the big thinking, highly capable and self-reliant you.
My goal is writing this series was to educate and explain that your freedom is under attack and that the enforcers for the controlling ruling class are waging a relentless psychological war to turn you into a fearful, compliant sheep who is dependent on the government for a handout.
They will not relent until we the people ourselves put a stop to it…and the only way for us to live freely is total refusal to comply with any and all government mandates.
We’ve come a long way since President John F. Kennedy uttered these famous words on January 20, 1961…
“Ask not what your country can do for you — ask what you can do for your country.”
What you and I can do for our country…and what all of humanity can do for each other is to embrace the awesome power of self-reliance.
That’s why I’m calling you out right now…Stand up, put the remote down, stop tweeting, challenge yourself and become your own hero.
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